I had clients and some people in my personal life tell me that they cannot forgive someone because of what they have done. Fair enough, it is a choice for you to either let go and forgive that person or hold onto that negative emotion. Some people think when they don’t forgive someone; they are punishing the other person. However if the other person didn’t realise what they have done in the first place they probably will never get the chance to realise what they have done in 1 year or 20 years time, unless they go through the life journey and learn things for themselves.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you just forget everything and hold hands and be friend with the person who harmed you. It means you just let go of those negative emotions towards that person. How’s it serving you or anyone when you don’t forgive?
Some people ask me in my sessions and in my seminars, how can you forgive everyone; how can you show the unconditional love towards those people who hurt you intentionally?
I strongly believe that we are all spiritual beings and we are all here to grow and evolve. We (every soul) are all in different states in our spiritual evolution. When you go to a 5 year old and asks him/her to do a math and give the same math to a 15 year old; 15year old might finish that math without any problem; because 15year olds’ growth level and understanding levels are much more advanced compare to 5year old. When you understand that everybody’s evolving, we are here to grow and we are all in a different levels of our spiritual evolution then we will be able to look at any events in our life much more deeply and understand it with much more clarity. When you forgive and let go, it liberates your soul. It will allow you to grow much more quickly rather than get stuck in one place or one aspect of your life. Forgiveness is not something that you do for others, we do it for ourselves to get well and move on with our life.
I had a client, who was in his late twenties. He was with a girl for about 7 years and then that girl cheated on him; he was so much in love with her so he wanted her back in his life, but she didn’t want him and after few years he met another girl and he was in love with that girl again and she broke up with him as well because she got back with her ex-boyfriend. He had panic attacks when he broke up with his first girlfriend and since then he gets it very often and after the second girl his panic attack got worse and he had been taken to emergency few times and admitted in hospital.
He had done MRI and all sorts of scan and other things and doctors couldn't find anything wrong, told him he has no problem. However he became unwell and had constant panic attack. Therefore he thought he must try other modalities to get help, so he came to see me for sessions. When he first came to see me I was asking him about when all these started?, he told me about his first girlfriend and what happened after that, for me it was very clear that he was holding onto those negative emotions towards his ex-girlfriends. He was very angry towards them and he said he doesn’t know if he can forgive them for what they have done to him.
First we did some work together first, he felt better, however had panic attack again after a month; so he came to see me again and we had another session and told him about the power of forgiveness and how he can forgive; it doesn’t necessarily mean that he has to forget and be friends with his ex-girlfriends but he can forgive and just let go so it will allow him to move on with his life. When he holds onto those negative emotions, only he suffers and punishes himself and others (his ex-girl friends) will carry on with their daily life, doing what they want to do with their life. After speaking to him for about 20 minutes or so about forgiveness, he said he’s willing to forgive and he doesn’t want them to bother him anymore and he’s happy to release them forever. We did a forgiving session for few minutes and I suggested him to do that every day for few weeks. He called me next day and told me that he had the best and the deepest sleep in a long time and he feels like he’s a whole new person. I can confirm this from my follow up with this client that since then he never had any panic attack.
I use different modalities depending on the client. It has to be a holistic approach and something that can help the client to take incharge and move forward with his or her life.
Understanding the essence of forgiveness is one of the most healing and liberating gifts you can give yourself. Master Choa Kok Sui describes 7 levels of forgiveness. He says a person’s spiritual development is based on how quickly s/he can forgive. Does it take you to forgive someone a lifetime? Or a few seconds?
Levels of Forgiveness:
Forgiving…
1. After few lifetimes
2. Before dying
3. After 20-30 years
4. After 2-5 years
5. After several months
6. After several days
7. Within 0-5 minutes
What are the benefits of forgiveness?
Feel happy and liberated, improved health, clarity, lighter and more beautiful relationships with yourself and others, more abundance, freedom, peace, happiness, vitality and an increased connection to the divine.
The gift that I can give my readers is "The new liberated YOU"… the gift that you can give yourself, very simple and easy; yet lots of people don't give this great gift to themselves. If you want to liberate you... go ahead and practice this:
>>Visualise all those people who have hurt you intentionally and unintentionally and forgive them for what they have done to you.
>>Visualise them in front of you, about one foot tall.
Tell them "I forgive you… you are going through your life journey and learning process. ( Note: Depending on if you believe in it or not ==>You are a child of God, therefore I forgive you... ) go in peace.
>>Then ask for their forgiveness and say
"please forgive me for what I have done to you intentionally and unintentionally, I’m a child of God (if you believe in it), I’m here to grow, evolve and learn and I am still learning. Please forgive me"
>>After that, visualise yourself front of you and forgive yourself for all the things that you have done to hurt others and yourself knowingly and unknowingly.
>>Do this every day for few weeks and enjoy the amazing result.
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