Client came for * Weight Loss * - Turned out to be * Sexually Abused *

Hi, I hope you enjoyed my last post and I promised you in my last post that I'll tell you about what happened to that sexually abused girl.

I saw this client in early 2009 while I was working in Preston, Victoria (Australia).

She came to me for * Weight Loss * at the start. Helen (made up name), came to see me for weight loss and she wanted to see herself thin, fit and stay healthy. She weighted 142kg and she had been over weight for all her life. She told me that she tried almost every diet out there and nothing seems to work for her and also she got gym membership as well, but she hardly goes there, because she says she just gets lazy and can't be bothered after getting back from work, however she tries to go to gym at least twice a week.

She came to me saying that I have to make her stop being lazy and get her to do more exercises and eat healthy.  She believed that she’s fat because she’s lazy and eat food all the time and she can’t stop eating or think about food; told me about her family history and how her mother is fat and her father is also very chubby therefore she also has this belief that she’s over-weight because it “runs in the family”.

First session was about preparing her and getting her ready subconsciously for the shift and change in her life and making her belief that it is possible for her to lose weight and stay healthy with lots of confidence.  I also had to work with her belief, that she thought her weight could be heredity. If she holds onto that belief, then it will become impossible to make any changes because she will have this program that it’s heredity so she cannot make any changes about it and she got to live with it for ever. If I don’t change that belief (program) that she has in her subconscious then there won’t be any use if I put in any new programs, because pretty much that heredity belief will over run any programs that I put in for her.  So it was necessary for me to change her belief with facts.

I told her “if you see identical twins, their genes are very identical at their early age; however according to their thinking, desires, life experiences, environment and other factors that they grow up can change their genes, so you are not stuck with your genes for ever. So identical twins genes when they were 6 year old and when they were 60 year old can be totally different. Therefore think about how you can change things as well if you are willing to change it and if you are serious about changing it”.  So she understood her heredity is not her destiny or the conclusion and therefore she is not stuck with it forever; and she can change it.

After our first session she said she never felt this much relaxed in her life before; when she came back to me for the second session she told me that for the first and second day she was very happy and doing things that she really wanted rather than letting her craving and laziness takes control of her and everything seems very positive and then she was back to her old routine and couldn’t help herself to motivate herself to do anything about her weight.

On our second session I was finding out how she chooses to stay overweight. It was very clear that she crave for ice cream and chocolates and cakes and also that she eats lots of fried food, and carbohydrate.  It was like a conflict, part of her says “no don’t eat” and the other part says “yes eat”. She struggles and then gives into those cravings and after she finishes eating she feels guilty about eating them. But after she was like 15 or something, she just turned num, as in “she avoided having any feeling about how she eats and how she looks” that is the words she used.  However she didn’t avoid having any emotions but she was feeding more to her cravings and strengthening it more and more each and every days.

She told me about how her childhood was and she was a chubby kid at school and everyone used to laugh at her but it didn’t really bothered her until she became a teenager and she wanted to look like all those hot models and actress and since then she tried all diets, but she couldn’t control her eating habit or behaviour. At about 15 she gave up even trying to staying thin; because she felt there’s no point in even trying.

We had few sessions and we couldn’t make much improvement. We have worked with her to stay motivated to do exercises and stay positive and confident etc.  However it was only lasting for few days and then she will get back to her old routine and when she came to me on her sixth session I thought we have done so much work with her, and there’s not much improvement, so I thought it is not just about eating.

All those people who work with subconscious/ unconscious mind knows that its job is to protect and preserve the body. I started asking myself, what was the purpose for Helen to eat too much and staying fat and protecting herself?, so we thought may be there’s something else that Helen might not be aware of consciously and when she went under hypnosis we took her to the root cause of her issue. 

What we found was really horrible and yet amazing as well, because that unleashed her from her habits and problems and she was free after that.  We found out that she was sexually abused when she was about 6 year old and it continued for a about a month and she was scared of that person who was abusing her and also; at that age she didn’t know what to do, she told herself if I was only “BIGGER” I can protect myself from him and he wouldn’t be hurting me this way.

We were able to let go of those emotions and reprogram her subconscious after finding out what happened to her.  When she was out of trance, she told me that she never knew it before that she was sexually abused and she couldn’t remember her childhood before 6 year old.  She thought that was normal not being able to remember. After that session we had one more session to integrate and reprogram and I told her she’s free from all her eating habit and those conflict that she had within herself.

After couple of months she called me and thanked me and said that she has been going to gym regularly and eating healthy and losing weight. In February, 2010 she came to see me and brought one of her friend with weight issue. Helen looked so amazing and she jokingly said to me "I don't have to be BIGGER to protect myself anymore to protect myself from anyone and I'm BIG enough now to protect myself and I'm an adult and guess what now I weights 62kgs".

It may sound surprising how that simple thought created that life for her, however our subconscious doesn't analyse anything it just takes in the information/ program and act accordingly. It is like programing a computer; or if you put 1+ 1 on a calculator it will only give 2 as the answer; likewise whatever the program is in your subconscious it will just control your emotions and behaviours.

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