Monday, November 22, 2010

Girl Who Felt Worth-Less...

I had a client that I saw about a month ago. I'll use a made up name to protect her privacy and I'll call her Jane. Jane came to see me for her depression/ anxiety issues. When she first saw me she couldn't look at me and talk and words wouldn't come out properly. She was only working part time in a supermarket and she was struggling to even go to work, because she was scared of people and to talk to them; however she just manages to go to work because she got to feed herself and pay for her bills.


She told me that she can't do well with what ever she does and even though she works hard, she always fails at the end; therefore she's starting to lose hope.  She was even avoiding her friends and every time her friends ask her to go out she was coming up with excuses and telling them that she's either busy or sick.


I think I won’t go into who she went and saw before she came to me, she pretty much tried the usual ways to get help, but nothing really helped her with her issues.


She said this was the last thing that she’s going to do and she lost all hopes if anybody could help her with her issues.


First day we started the session with taking her information and explaining to her what we were about to do after finding out her needs.  She said she has depression, after speaking to her I figured out it was more about self esteem issue. I could see that Jane's depression was connected to her self worth and self esteem. At the start we asked her what was happening in her life and when all these started.  She said she doesn’t know exactly what happened however her belief was that after she broke her leg in an accident when she was 9 year old, she started feeling like the way she’s feeling now.  And she also told me, from then onwards her school-grade dropped down to just barely passing the subjects in each and every terms. 


Even though she consciously knows little information about when all these started and/ or what happened, there’s no chance for her to know what’s in her subconscious mind and what her subconscious beliefs.


We started the session by relaxing her and getting her into deep trance.  What we found was amazing.


When she was under trance we were able to find out the root cause of the issue and deal with that; we found out that when she was a child, at about 9 year old, her grand mother passed away and she couldn’t be able to go and she had to stay with her aunt while her parents went to the funeral in Queensland.  When she was staying with her aunt, her aunt didn’t pay much attention to her and she was always telling her how bad her mother was and she’s going to become just like her mother and nobody’s going to like her and she’s only good for nothing etc and also told her that she’s also dump.  She was in tears when her aunt was telling her all these things.


After her parents returned back from the funeral she gone with her parents and she carried on with her life, however after a week she had an accident while she was playing at school and she broke her leg.  Since then she find herself not being able to do anything in her life, struggling to do almost any tasks.


After few sessions with Jane, we were able to reprogram her subconscious mind and let go of her old baggage and now she’s totally a new person and about a week ago she called and told me that she got a new full time job and also she’s applying to study nursing next year.  Something that she’s very passionate about.


Note: It doesn't mean every kid who experiences same sort of experience go through the same kind of life experiences.  We all are individuals and we take and interpret things differently according to our world and beliefs.  It is better to use encouraging, and positive words especially with kids, because at that young age they don’t have their analytical faculty developed very much so they absorb anything like a sponge and they will take it with them like a baggage without even their own knowledge.  Consciously people won’t know what caused them certain behaviour, some people say it is their personality; but in reality it is NOT. All of our memories, beliefs and moral and ‘who am I’ is programmed into our subconscious mind and when you are in your conscious mind it is almost impossible to find out what is inside our subconscious. One of the easiest ways to reprogram our subconscious mind is hypnosis. I also use NLP and Time Line Therapy to work with the subconscious and these are very powerful tools in working with people.




Next post will be about what happened to that Sexually Abused Girl….

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