Client came for * Weight Loss * - Turned out to be * Sexually Abused *

Hi, I hope you enjoyed my last post and I promised you in my last post that I'll tell you about what happened to that sexually abused girl.

I saw this client in early 2009 while I was working in Preston, Victoria (Australia).

She came to me for * Weight Loss * at the start. Helen (made up name), came to see me for weight loss and she wanted to see herself thin, fit and stay healthy. She weighted 142kg and she had been over weight for all her life. She told me that she tried almost every diet out there and nothing seems to work for her and also she got gym membership as well, but she hardly goes there, because she says she just gets lazy and can't be bothered after getting back from work, however she tries to go to gym at least twice a week.

She came to me saying that I have to make her stop being lazy and get her to do more exercises and eat healthy.  She believed that she’s fat because she’s lazy and eat food all the time and she can’t stop eating or think about food; told me about her family history and how her mother is fat and her father is also very chubby therefore she also has this belief that she’s over-weight because it “runs in the family”.

First session was about preparing her and getting her ready subconsciously for the shift and change in her life and making her belief that it is possible for her to lose weight and stay healthy with lots of confidence.  I also had to work with her belief, that she thought her weight could be heredity. If she holds onto that belief, then it will become impossible to make any changes because she will have this program that it’s heredity so she cannot make any changes about it and she got to live with it for ever. If I don’t change that belief (program) that she has in her subconscious then there won’t be any use if I put in any new programs, because pretty much that heredity belief will over run any programs that I put in for her.  So it was necessary for me to change her belief with facts.

I told her “if you see identical twins, their genes are very identical at their early age; however according to their thinking, desires, life experiences, environment and other factors that they grow up can change their genes, so you are not stuck with your genes for ever. So identical twins genes when they were 6 year old and when they were 60 year old can be totally different. Therefore think about how you can change things as well if you are willing to change it and if you are serious about changing it”.  So she understood her heredity is not her destiny or the conclusion and therefore she is not stuck with it forever; and she can change it.

After our first session she said she never felt this much relaxed in her life before; when she came back to me for the second session she told me that for the first and second day she was very happy and doing things that she really wanted rather than letting her craving and laziness takes control of her and everything seems very positive and then she was back to her old routine and couldn’t help herself to motivate herself to do anything about her weight.

On our second session I was finding out how she chooses to stay overweight. It was very clear that she crave for ice cream and chocolates and cakes and also that she eats lots of fried food, and carbohydrate.  It was like a conflict, part of her says “no don’t eat” and the other part says “yes eat”. She struggles and then gives into those cravings and after she finishes eating she feels guilty about eating them. But after she was like 15 or something, she just turned num, as in “she avoided having any feeling about how she eats and how she looks” that is the words she used.  However she didn’t avoid having any emotions but she was feeding more to her cravings and strengthening it more and more each and every days.

She told me about how her childhood was and she was a chubby kid at school and everyone used to laugh at her but it didn’t really bothered her until she became a teenager and she wanted to look like all those hot models and actress and since then she tried all diets, but she couldn’t control her eating habit or behaviour. At about 15 she gave up even trying to staying thin; because she felt there’s no point in even trying.

We had few sessions and we couldn’t make much improvement. We have worked with her to stay motivated to do exercises and stay positive and confident etc.  However it was only lasting for few days and then she will get back to her old routine and when she came to me on her sixth session I thought we have done so much work with her, and there’s not much improvement, so I thought it is not just about eating.

All those people who work with subconscious/ unconscious mind knows that its job is to protect and preserve the body. I started asking myself, what was the purpose for Helen to eat too much and staying fat and protecting herself?, so we thought may be there’s something else that Helen might not be aware of consciously and when she went under hypnosis we took her to the root cause of her issue. 

What we found was really horrible and yet amazing as well, because that unleashed her from her habits and problems and she was free after that.  We found out that she was sexually abused when she was about 6 year old and it continued for a about a month and she was scared of that person who was abusing her and also; at that age she didn’t know what to do, she told herself if I was only “BIGGER” I can protect myself from him and he wouldn’t be hurting me this way.

We were able to let go of those emotions and reprogram her subconscious after finding out what happened to her.  When she was out of trance, she told me that she never knew it before that she was sexually abused and she couldn’t remember her childhood before 6 year old.  She thought that was normal not being able to remember. After that session we had one more session to integrate and reprogram and I told her she’s free from all her eating habit and those conflict that she had within herself.

After couple of months she called me and thanked me and said that she has been going to gym regularly and eating healthy and losing weight. In February, 2010 she came to see me and brought one of her friend with weight issue. Helen looked so amazing and she jokingly said to me "I don't have to be BIGGER to protect myself anymore to protect myself from anyone and I'm BIG enough now to protect myself and I'm an adult and guess what now I weights 62kgs".

It may sound surprising how that simple thought created that life for her, however our subconscious doesn't analyse anything it just takes in the information/ program and act accordingly. It is like programing a computer; or if you put 1+ 1 on a calculator it will only give 2 as the answer; likewise whatever the program is in your subconscious it will just control your emotions and behaviours.

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Girl Who Felt Worth-Less...

I had a client that I saw about a month ago. I'll use a made up name to protect her privacy and I'll call her Jane. Jane came to see me for her depression/ anxiety issues. When she first saw me she couldn't look at me and talk and words wouldn't come out properly. She was only working part time in a supermarket and she was struggling to even go to work, because she was scared of people and to talk to them; however she just manages to go to work because she got to feed herself and pay for her bills.


She told me that she can't do well with what ever she does and even though she works hard, she always fails at the end; therefore she's starting to lose hope.  She was even avoiding her friends and every time her friends ask her to go out she was coming up with excuses and telling them that she's either busy or sick.


I think I won’t go into who she went and saw before she came to me, she pretty much tried the usual ways to get help, but nothing really helped her with her issues.


She said this was the last thing that she’s going to do and she lost all hopes if anybody could help her with her issues.


First day we started the session with taking her information and explaining to her what we were about to do after finding out her needs.  She said she has depression, after speaking to her I figured out it was more about self esteem issue. I could see that Jane's depression was connected to her self worth and self esteem. At the start we asked her what was happening in her life and when all these started.  She said she doesn’t know exactly what happened however her belief was that after she broke her leg in an accident when she was 9 year old, she started feeling like the way she’s feeling now.  And she also told me, from then onwards her school-grade dropped down to just barely passing the subjects in each and every terms. 


Even though she consciously knows little information about when all these started and/ or what happened, there’s no chance for her to know what’s in her subconscious mind and what her subconscious beliefs.


We started the session by relaxing her and getting her into deep trance.  What we found was amazing.


When she was under trance we were able to find out the root cause of the issue and deal with that; we found out that when she was a child, at about 9 year old, her grand mother passed away and she couldn’t be able to go and she had to stay with her aunt while her parents went to the funeral in Queensland.  When she was staying with her aunt, her aunt didn’t pay much attention to her and she was always telling her how bad her mother was and she’s going to become just like her mother and nobody’s going to like her and she’s only good for nothing etc and also told her that she’s also dump.  She was in tears when her aunt was telling her all these things.


After her parents returned back from the funeral she gone with her parents and she carried on with her life, however after a week she had an accident while she was playing at school and she broke her leg.  Since then she find herself not being able to do anything in her life, struggling to do almost any tasks.


After few sessions with Jane, we were able to reprogram her subconscious mind and let go of her old baggage and now she’s totally a new person and about a week ago she called and told me that she got a new full time job and also she’s applying to study nursing next year.  Something that she’s very passionate about.


Note: It doesn't mean every kid who experiences same sort of experience go through the same kind of life experiences.  We all are individuals and we take and interpret things differently according to our world and beliefs.  It is better to use encouraging, and positive words especially with kids, because at that young age they don’t have their analytical faculty developed very much so they absorb anything like a sponge and they will take it with them like a baggage without even their own knowledge.  Consciously people won’t know what caused them certain behaviour, some people say it is their personality; but in reality it is NOT. All of our memories, beliefs and moral and ‘who am I’ is programmed into our subconscious mind and when you are in your conscious mind it is almost impossible to find out what is inside our subconscious. One of the easiest ways to reprogram our subconscious mind is hypnosis. I also use NLP and Time Line Therapy to work with the subconscious and these are very powerful tools in working with people.




Next post will be about what happened to that Sexually Abused Girl….

* Time Line Therapy® *

You can see that this particular client goes back into her past life. It doesn't mean that past life exist or doesn't exist. That was not the point here, but on a subconscious level, when that emotion was dealt in that way according to what the subconscious want, it was ready to let go of that emotion.  Past life issue could be just simply a metaphore or some kind of fantasy thing that was created in a deeper level. We don't know. However, what we know is when we do this Time Line Therapy we were able to help the client to let go of their negative emotions and limiting beliefs.  We have been 100% successful with Time Line Therapy.

I have been doing Counselling, Clinical Hypnotherapy, NLP and Emotional Freedom Technique for last two years and I found that Time Line Therapy that I learnt in October 2010 is much more effective in releasing/ get rid of negative emotions such as Anger, Sadness, Fear, Hurt, Guilt, Depression, Anxiety, Phobia and other Limiting Behaviours and Beliefs (I can't earn money, I'm not worthy enough, I'm not good enough) and low self esteem etc.  It has been 100% effective and every client that I saw and/ or other therapist who uses Time Line Therapy saw had 100% success rate so far.

Time Line Therapy™ is a process that assists us:

- To let go of Negative Emotions from the past
- To let go of Limiting Decisions from the past
- Create our future the way we want it.

These are the three major techniques that comprise Time Line Therapy™—they are easy to do and make a significant change in a person's life.

 

The latest development in NLP, Time Line Therapy® techniques are a unique and unmatched method for creating powerful change in business, education, and therapy.


Time Line Therapy® utilizes a person’s own internal “Time Line” to work with their subconscious/ unconscious minds in a variety of ways; including, healing emotional traumas and eradicating unwanted thoughts, limiting beliefs, emotions and behaviors.


Time Line Therapy® is so highly regarded, in fact, that the Council of Psychotherapy in Croatia asked to be trained by “The James” in “Time Line Therapy” so they could help many of the victims of the war suffering from “post traumatic stress disorder”.


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People find much harder to change consciously. The Time Line Therapy™ techniques allow you to work at the subconscious/ unconscious level and release the effects of past negative experiences and change "inappropriate" programming in minutes rather than days, months or years.


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Time Line Therapy® allow you to gain emotional control over your life. Negative/Inappropriate emotional reactions, such as anger, hurt, depression, anxiety, sadness, fear, are responsible for preventing people from achieving the quality of life they desire.


Get rid of limiting decisions, such as "I'm not good enough," "I can't earn money". Now you can achieve your goals and outcomes using Time Line Therapy. Created by Dr. Tad James, Time Line Therapy™ techniques enable you to eliminate many types of issues in your past, thus allowing you to move forward toward your goals and desires.


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